A few weeks ago, I woke up with a knot in my back, next to the right shoulder blade. Not anything unusual–I’ve had back muscle problems since my mid-20s. My posture isn’t great and I carry a lot of tension and anxiety in my shoulders and back, so sudden muscle pain is an old companion of mine and I didn’t think much of it besides “OW!” (more…)
Look, we know Twitter can be a rough, toxic space on the internet. Even people who have never been on Twitter have heard about celebrities quitting because they got deluged by acidic spite, sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia, or just the relentless hounding of trolls who practice cruelty simply because they can do it without accountability or consequence. I’ve seen it happen in real time and it’s ugly, frustrating, infuriating. I’ve considered leaving the site a bunch of times. I’ve wondered if the site deserved to stay around, if it was a healthy way to interact with the online world. (more…)
Happy Ace Week! No, this isn’t about last night’s Doctor Who special, although I could talk about that for hours. This is about asexuality awareness. I’ve talked some online about how I started identifying as asexual last year, but I don’t think I’ve ever “officially” come out or really opened up about it publicly, and since I wish I’d seen more people (especially men) talk about it in the past, because maybe then it wouldn’t have taken me so long to start to figure things out, I’m going to talk about it here and now. (more…)
Happy Pride Month!
Pride is a time when many people will publicly come out or reaffirm their queerness. This is that kind of post.
I’m trying to write something about how long and difficult 2020 has felt and how I’m doing my best to keep my eyes focused on just being here now while also looking at lights in the road ahead, better times coming. But the words aren’t doing what I’d like them to do, I keep erasing and starting over. Here’s one more try (hopefully the last try) to say this: (more…)
